Archive for August, 2009


Believe in magic or not, we all know what it’s about. The awe-induced experience of witnessing something momentous…and wanting to be a better person because of it. No matter what it is.

My magical top 7 (in no order whatsoever)

1. shooting stars – to see one means that you’ve a) been patiently keeping your gaze up and not at your feet or b) you’ve had dumb luck.
2. dumb luck – this happens…a lot. Sadly, it’s the hope that this will befall us that can keep us small…think lotto dreams. Then again, think lotto dreams and replace “lotto” with “blue sky”…and now what’s available? Now what is your subconscious working on? If it’s real and authentic, you’ll find a way to make it happen…clarity is the key.
3. love – can’t see it, hear it, taste it, or touch it…but man, can you feel it when it’s real and genuine.
4. new beginnings – there’s always a chance to turn the bus around….especially if you have the right people on your bus.
5. music – for me, there is nothing like music to lift me up if I need to be lifted, or brought to earth if I need the grounding. I love it all…except for rinky-dink noodly jazz…that just makes me mad. But make a recommendation and I may turn that around too…may be another new beginning.
6. coaching – working with people committed to making real, tangible and significant changes…for themselves and ultimately, the world around them…sheer inspiration and an honour to witness.
7. the smell of oleanders – poetry in a fragrance

Why only 7? I love the magic of having room for more. I intend to keep adding, so please send me some of your thoughts…magic is to be shared.


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This weekend, I was fortunate enough to have assisted 21 people brave enough to dare to be free. Of self-limiting beliefs. Of self-imposed judgments. Of holding back. Of being small.

It was an honour to witness and a privilege to be in their midst. Courageous people ripping out the tap roots of what’s holding them back and filling that void with new, fertile and brilliant truths about their essence…it was sheer joy and beauty.

I felt like a bit of an interloper at times, because here’s the truth…I haven’t really dared to be free of my own self-limiting belief. Mostly because I didn’t really know what it was. But with the help of the masterful L.A. Reding (the co-creator of this unbelievably powerful program Dare to be Free), the incomparable Elisa Palombi and the knowing Paulo da Silva, I’ve discovered what the mother of all my self-limiting beliefs is: I fear…nay BELIEVE, that I am a fake. Which REAAAAAALLLLY sucks because one of my major core values is authenticity.

Hence the proclamation here: I want to be authentic about the fact that I fear I’m a fake.

That’s a risky proposition for a coach who claims to be powerful and runs the risk of publicly admitting weakness. But I do so in honour of those brave enough to dig deeper this weekend. And in service of those who have a story made up in their own minds that I have it all together. Nope. And I’m okay with it.

Now that I know what’s truly been holding me back, I have some work to excavate it. Back-breaking work given that those roots are pretty deep…they’ve been gaining power for 36 years.

I’ve committed to myself and to the group that I would eradicate it. So I will. And I’ll let you know how it goes…but I think you’ll just feel it.

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